How do we box people succesfully?
It is no secret- I hate putting people in boxes. I feel it is arrogant to assume that peoples freewill, to "just be", has to fit into a category that will make sense to the person interacting with them.
That was, until this past weekend! I had the privilege to learn about DISC profiling. It is a model introduced by Bev James. It is available in app for iPhone. I am by no means recommending or affiliated to or receive any incentive for her product. I just love it when I come across something of real value. I cannot help myself from wanting to share it!
What I found fantastic about DISC is that it open up a whole new way of communication with myself and with other people. It gave me an understanding on how to "handle" people who I would normally avoid like the plague. It is no secret that most of my friends are very caring, sensitive and sincere people. My acquaintances enrich my life by being so different to me, but I learn so much from them.
By having an understanding from where they come from, we enrich each others lives instead of judging each other. Life is so beautiful if we try and understand each other instead of judging.
I recalled a time from my young adulthood. A young unmarried couple was expecting an unplanned baby. It was at a time when it was taboo, let alone against their immediate family and friends' faith!
I sat in a conversation, where this was the hot topic of discussion. (This is my second biggest bug bear- gossip. Does more harm than good.) After pulling this couple to bits about what they have gotten themselves into, I felt obliged to say something. As a 20 year old, I looked around the room. I saw women in their 40's offering nothing of any support but only judgement. I offered an opinion without being asked. I asked why it was so easy to judge yet so difficult to offer support for a couple who clearly will need it in the foreseeable future. The room went quite. I excused myself, went home and gave my mother a big hug without uttering a word.
The most beautiful thing is to see them on Facebook. They turned out to be great parents :-)
That was, until this past weekend! I had the privilege to learn about DISC profiling. It is a model introduced by Bev James. It is available in app for iPhone. I am by no means recommending or affiliated to or receive any incentive for her product. I just love it when I come across something of real value. I cannot help myself from wanting to share it!
What I found fantastic about DISC is that it open up a whole new way of communication with myself and with other people. It gave me an understanding on how to "handle" people who I would normally avoid like the plague. It is no secret that most of my friends are very caring, sensitive and sincere people. My acquaintances enrich my life by being so different to me, but I learn so much from them.
By having an understanding from where they come from, we enrich each others lives instead of judging each other. Life is so beautiful if we try and understand each other instead of judging.
I recalled a time from my young adulthood. A young unmarried couple was expecting an unplanned baby. It was at a time when it was taboo, let alone against their immediate family and friends' faith!
I sat in a conversation, where this was the hot topic of discussion. (This is my second biggest bug bear- gossip. Does more harm than good.) After pulling this couple to bits about what they have gotten themselves into, I felt obliged to say something. As a 20 year old, I looked around the room. I saw women in their 40's offering nothing of any support but only judgement. I offered an opinion without being asked. I asked why it was so easy to judge yet so difficult to offer support for a couple who clearly will need it in the foreseeable future. The room went quite. I excused myself, went home and gave my mother a big hug without uttering a word.
The most beautiful thing is to see them on Facebook. They turned out to be great parents :-)
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